I'll Carry It: A 90 Day Reset For Fathers

A 90 day operating system for fathers moving through divorce and rebuilding on the other side of it.

I did not build this because I had it figured out. I built it because I did not. When my marriage ended I kept waiting for someone to hand me a system that would get me through the day without losing my composure in front of my kids. Nobody handed me that. So I built it for myself, and then I built it for the next father who needs it.

How it works

Ninety days. Three touchpoints a day. Five minutes each.

• Morning. Set intent. Name what you control. Choose one leadership action and three priorities.
• Midday. One honest question. Am I reacting or responding. Correct if you drifted.
• Evening. Three accountability questions and open reflection. Did I lead well. Did I protect stability. What do I improve tomorrow.

Every seven days you complete a Weekly Reset, where the patterns become visible. At days 30, 60 and 90 you hit a Milestone Reflection and measure yourself against who you were on day one.

What it is not

This is not a diary. It is not therapy. It is not a book you read. It does not judge and it does not give advice. It holds the structure so you can do the work.

The object

• 224 pages
• Smyth sewn binding, lies flat on any page
• Soft touch debossed cover
• Guided daily spreads, Weekly Resets, Milestone Reflections at 30, 60 and 90
• Sample spread included so you know exactly how to use it on day one
• ISBN 979-8-9957836-0-2

Your children do not need a perfect father. They need a regulated one.

Carry what is yours. Put down what is not.